About a year ago I heard that the son of my good friend was engaged to be married. Michael and his fiancee were attending Wayland Baptist University at the time, and had begun making plans for the wedding. During the course of their planning, I received a call from Michael. He asked me if I would help lead worship at his wedding. I responded with, “You mean sing a song?” “No,” he replied, “I want you to lead worship at our wedding.” I have sung at hundreds of weddings over the years, and had never been asked to lead worship before. “Wasn’t that for Sunday mornings and church services?” I thought to myself. I had never considered a time of congregational worship a part of a wedding ceremony. Call it wedding worship.
You have to know Michael and fiancee to understand what appeared to me, an unusual request. They are worshipers, and they love worshiping the Lord. Worship is part of their daily lives. It’s not something they do only on the weekends, but it’s who they are each day every day. They have hearts full of worship for the Lord, and it is clear to all who know them. To most it came as no surprise that they wanted to have a time of congregational worship. It only came across as odd to me, the worship pastor of fifteen years. What a lesson I learned that day!
December rolled around and we began preparing for the service. The song selection for the worship time was well choreographed as they had chosen songs that reflected their hearts for worship and for God, the special music they had planned was perfect, and the message was written by the bride and the groom. I have to say that this was one of the most well-thought out weddings I have ever been to. From start to finish it expressed their love for each other as well as their commitment to the Lord and each other.
My Experience With Wedding Worship
The service began at 7:00 p.m. with the seating of the families. The lighting of the candles commenced by the mothers and everyone was seated in their place. Worship was the next thing on the program and the worship time extended to a church that was full of friends and family. We began singing and the room was filled with the Spirit of God. Some didn’t understand why we were singing these songs during the wedding, and I’m sure many felt a little out of place as we asked them to stand and sing. It wasn’t a long time of worship, but it was a meaningful one. The bride and groom accomplished several things by spending these few moments in worship. First, they made a statement of the importance of worship in their own lives. Secondly, to all that attended they proclaimed, “We love the Lord enough to worship Him during this special moment in our lives.” Thirdly, they were able to say to the Lord, “We love you enough to come to You first and worship You on this very special moment in our lives.” The wedding (and the wedding worship) was truly a moving service of love and commitment as everyone knew where these two stood before each other and before the Lord.
